Ecclesiastes 9:9 ( NKJV ) reads as follows:
"Live joyfully with the wife whom you love all the days of your vain life which He has given you under the sun, all your days of vanity; for this is your portion in life, and in the labor which you perform under the sun."
Matthew 19:4-6, 9 ( NKJV ) read as follows:
"And He answered and said to them, 'Have you not read that He who made them at the beginning ''made them male and female,'' and said, 'For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh'? So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.... And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery; and whoever marries her who is divorced commits adultery."
This article is in response to two articles that appeared in newsvine.com today; one being about Sinead O'Connor's marriage which she claimed lasted only 16 days ( the source of that article being the Associated Press ), and the other being about Mandla Mandella getting married for his second time in less than two years ( before his divorce from his first wife could be finalized - the source of that article being the independent.co.uk website ).
Everyone must understand that marriage is a lifelong commitment involving one man and one woman. Furthermore, there is only one Scriptural reason for divorce - sexual immorality ( recall Matthew 19:9 ( NKJV ), for example - one cannot simply "walk away" from a marriage relationship or file for divorce for a "reason" that is not Scriptural ). Some people mention "reasons" why they got divorced.
They claim they were not able to get along with each other ( or some other trivial "reason" ). Evidently, some people have the sinful view of marriage that it is nothing more than a license, between a man and a woman, to have sexual intercourse and, if they cannot get along with each other, they can simply dishonor the vows they made to each other ( assuming their wedding vows were Scriptural to begin with ), and file for divorce. Marriage is a lifelong commitment ( recall Ecclesiastes 9:9 and Matthew 19:4-6, for example ), and it must be taken seriously.
Divorce "covers one's garment with violence" ( see Malachi 2:16 ( NKJV )). God ( see 2 Timothy 3:16, 17, for example ) allows one reason for divorce ( as mentioned in Matthew 19:9 ( NKJV ), for example ), but He also hates divorce ( recall Malachi 2:16 ). If the sin of sexual immorality is committed, the innocent spouse can file for divorce, or he or she can remain married to their spouse who committed the sexual immorality ( avoiding divorce if at all possible ).
If no sexual immorality has occurred involving a husband and his wife, then divorce is not allowed. Those who want to get married must give careful consideration to whom they intend to marry, and they must plan for a lifelong commitment to that marriage.
Sincerely in Christ,
Russell E. Willis
P.S. - Please read Proverbs 23:23.